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For the majority of caregivers with incomes of less than $ 50,000, helping to care for a loved one creates a significant financial burden. The survey found that 25 percent have reduced how much they save for their own retirement. Some have borrowed to cover health care expenses.
There is a video every caregiver should watch that was posted by AARP and The Ad Council a few years ago. Search YouTube for “Caregiving: Ad Council PSA – Silent Scream”. Watch the 32-second version of the ad, which captures overwhelmed caregivers silently screaming. It’s a recognition that caregivers want to help but can still be frustrated with the job.
I cry every time I watch the video. It ends with a link to aarp.org/care. On the site, you will find a link to a “Care Preparation Guide”. The guide, available in several languages, suggests five steps for better care delivery:
Talk it over: It cannot be overstated how important it is to have frank conversations before there is a crisis that leads to a caregiving situation. And once you’re there, be honest about your feelings.
There were times during my recovery when I felt like I was a burden.
My eldest, who lives at home while finishing her college education, has been very helpful to me. But every time she helped me, I apologized. I must have said a thousand times: “I’m sorry”. Finally, my daughter asked me to stop her. She said it had become irritating to her that I apologize so much. Still, I knew she didn’t always want to be disturbed. It showed on his face. Still, I had to learn it was OK.