Son wants to help stressed mother – Times-Standard
Dear Harriette: My mother got very angry with my grandmother recently, and it was hard on my family. My mom is stressed because she regulates my grandmother’s medications and manages her diet, exercise and various health issues. However, she ends up exhausting herself to the point that she screams and cries every few days. I’m not sure what I can do, but I would like to support them both to make it less of an occurrence. How can I help? – Support threads
Dear Support Son: You can be a sounding board for your mother. She may need to talk about her stress and let off steam. Let her know that you are there for her and that you are ready to help her in any way you can.
You can also do some research. Look online for local resources that can help you with elder care. If your grandmother can go to an elderly care facility during the day, it may bring some peace to your mother. Sometimes these can be affordable and insurance can cover the cost. Your mother may also turn to a visiting nurse service, where a professional nurse comes to look after a patient’s needs, including the administration of medication. Look for these things and present options to your mother. Your initiative will please her and may also help her find ways to meet the challenges she faces.
Dear Harriette: I have traveled a lot recently, and it has limited the time I can spend with my family. It was hard on me, as well as on my son and my wife. We love spending time together, and I go several days a week on a regular basis. What can I do to make the most of my time with my family and how can I feel there even when I’m not? – Traveling husband
Dear Traveling Husband: First of all, it’s wonderful that you have a tight-knit family and want it to stay that way. Thanks to technology, it won’t be as difficult as you might think. Schedule daily calls with them while you are away. You can use FaceTime or another program to be able to see and talk to them. If your travel schedule is somewhat irregular it will still work, just be sure to put the call on your calendar. It can be early in the morning, late at night, or at dinner time. The call doesn’t have to be long, but being able to see each other is priceless.
If you are traveling abroad, you can use the free WhatsApp app. This will allow you to make free calls to each other from virtually anywhere in the world. You can also send voice messages so that your family can receive them at their convenience, and vice versa.
When you are at home, be sure to set aside time when you are together. You don’t have to do anything special. Just take the time to be with each other and talk.
Harriette Cole is a life stylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send your questions to [email protected] or c / o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.