Jada Pinkett Smith looks back on marriage for her 50th anniversary
Jada Pinkett Smith marks an important milestone this year: her 50th birthday!
The “Red Table Talk” host, who turned 50 on September 18, celebrated her big day on Wednesday’s episode by answering questions from famous friends about her relationship with Will Smith. The two, who documented their ups and downs, tied the knot in 1997 and have been married for more than two decades.
George Clooney began the birthday tributes, jokingly wishing him a happy 39th birthday.
“They tell me you’re going to be 50, which, uh, that’s not possible, because that would mean I’m 60, and that’s not possible,” Clooney joked.
He went on to ask her a “simple” question “I wanted to ask for a long time.”
“How do you put up with Will?” He asked playfully, as Jada burst out laughing. “You are smart, talented, successful and beautiful and you have all these qualities that, quite honestly, Will does not have and I want to know how you are doing after all these years. How are you doing?”
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In response, Jada admitted that she had to learn to love herself first in order to love someone else.
“I think what you really have to learn is how to have a friendship, because really, how do you support someone? How do you support yourself?” she answered.
Once she learned to understand herself, Jada said that she “really learned to put up with everyone else.”
“I think for me I had so much emotional maturity that I had to do. I really had to take the time to learn to love myself because the way we love each other is the way we show people. how to love us. “
However, she also explained the fine line between depending on her husband to make her happy and being happy with her husband by answering Trevor Noah’s question about the difference.
“The idea of when you expect someone to fill your happy place and be your happy place rather than you creating your happy place inside, you have to be your cake. You are grateful when someone wants to be the icing on the cake or the icing on the cake but you have to (be) your cake. “
“When you have your own happiness within you, you understand better that A) no one owes you anything and B) whatever someone decides to give you is a gift,” she added.
While Jada reflected on the highlights of her nearly 25-year marriage to the “Fresh Prince of Bel-Air” star, she also admitted that it wasn’t always easy. She opened up about her initially tumultuous relationship with Will’s first wife, Sheree Fletcher (he and Fletcher were married from 1992 to 1995).
“It was a real process,” Jada admitted.
Although she admitted that she now sees Fletcher as a sister, she said it took her almost 20 years to get there.
“It was really a transformation for all of us. To have a blended family and come to a place where it was easy and have full acceptance,” Smith said, adding that Fletcher is accepting “me and all my nonsense” now. .
“There is real brotherhood there.”
This isn’t the first time that Jada has become brutally honest about her love life. In June, she opened up about her unconventional views on marriage and her relationship with Will in an interview with Guardian.
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“Will is my life partner and I couldn’t ask for a better one,” she said at the time. “I love him, I never want people to think it was Will, I didn’t want to get married – he and I were talking about it the other day. But I can assure you some of the most powerful women in the world. people feel caged and tied up, because of the sacrifices they have to make to be in this position.
A month later, she addressed her brief affair with R&B artist August Alsina as she and Will were going through a difficult time in their marriage.
“I was in a lot of pain. I was very broken, ”she told Will on an episode of“ Red Table Talk ”at the time.“ Now in the process of this relationship, I definitely realize you can’t find happiness outside of yourself. … I would definitely say that we did all we could to get away from each other, only to realize that it was not possible.
The “Girls Trip” actress explained that her relationship with Alsina allowed her to grow and heal as she learned about herself during their time together, including acknowledging her desire to be “attracted to. people who need help “.
“On this particular trip I learned so much about myself and I was really able to deal with a lot of emotional immaturity, emotional insecurity and I was really able to do a really deep healing.” , Jada said.
Contribution: Hannah Yasharoff, Rasha Ali
This article originally appeared on USA TODAY: Jada Pinkett Smith turns 50 and looks back on Will Smith’s wedding