Dear Abby: The Card Lover Needs Someone To Receive Daily Greetings
DEAR ABBY: My uncle who has Alzheimer’s disease has declined rapidly. Before her refusal, I bought 30 greeting cards a month and made sure to send her one a day. I live in Florida, and he lives in Kentucky.
I have received a lot of satisfaction and joy with every message I sent. My mother would open the cards and stick them on the outside of her bedroom door. His neighbors would stop and read them as they passed, and he would use the montage of seasonal greetings as a way to recognize his door.
My uncle is no longer conscious or consistent, and my mom told me to stop sending the cards. Abby, I NEED this activity in my life. How can I find another person who would like to receive a greeting card? I am semi-paralyzed and confined to a wheelchair. I have no interest in meeting, visiting or even talking to the recipient; I just want to send greeting cards. Suggestions? – LOVE SENDING SMILE
DEAR LOVE: It is time to find another outlet for your benevolence and compassion. Contact the elderly care facilities in your community, talk to the directors and ask if one (or more) of the residents would like to receive your seasonal greetings. I bet the answer will be yes.
DEAR ABBY: Holidays can be stressful and even dangerous for pets. Here are some things pet owners can do to make them less dangerous for their four-legged companions:
1. Feed them, walk or play with them before the party, then take them to a quiet room with water and a good treat. With a cat, make sure it also has its litter box.
2. If you are traveling, make sure your pet is properly secured in your car with a seat belt harness or a secure carrier. If you can’t bring your pet, take them on board or hire a reliable pet sitter.
3. Remember that “people’s food” is generally not safe for Fido or Fluffy. Chocolate, alcohol, eggnog (dairy products) and other products can be toxic to your pet. Have appropriate treats on hand.
4. Do not leave dogs outside, especially if it is cold. Bring them inside.
5. If you have cats going out, consider bringing them inside or providing them with a nice warm box to curl up in at night.
6. Christmas trees are a pure temptation for your cat, with hanging items to play with and an opportunity to climb. Make sure your tree is securely anchored. Consider leaving the garlands off your tree and placing your ornaments where cats can’t knock them off.
7. Electrical cords look like chews and can shock your pet. Cover them with special string guards or use anti-chewing sprays.
8. Christmas wrapping paper, ribbon, and other items can suffocate your pet. Dispose of the waste opening the gifts immediately.
Hope these tips help everyone have a safe and happy holiday season. – ANIMAL LOVER IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR ANIMAL LOVERS: And I hope my readers take what you have written to heart because your suggestions are important. Thank you for your letter.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.